Alright, let’s set the scene: you and your partner have been spending more time at each other’s places than at your own. You’ve got a toothbrush at their place, and their hoodie somehow became part of your wardrobe rotation. You feel seen yet? The thought of splitting rent and waking up together every day is becoming more appealing (and let’s not lie, more practical). So, how do you know it’s really time to move in together? Let’s talk about it.

1. You’ve Had the Money Talk

Girl, love doesn’t pay the bills—so let’s get that part straight first. If you haven’t had a serious conversation about how finances will work once you’re sharing a space, then it’s too soon. Who’s covering what? Are you splitting things 50/50, or is it proportional to income? What happens if one of you gets laid off? These convos are awkward, sure, but they’re a necessary and required conversation to have.

2. You’ve Tested the 24/7 Vibes

Ok, let’s be honest, spending the weekend at bae’s place is cute, but living together is a whole different ballgame. Have you traveled together or had extended stays at one another’s homes? How did it go when one of you was stressed, sick, or just in a bad mood? If you’ve already navigated a mini version of cohabitation and didn’t want to run for the hills, that’s a green flag!

3. You’re Comfortable with Each Other’s Quirks

Living with someone means you’re going to see and smell it all. Have you had a “this is who I really am” moment yet? Like, does one of you like the bed made every morning and the other doesn’t like cleaning up as often as you? It’s not just about tolerating those quirks—it’s about being okay with addressing them without World War III breaking out.

4. Your Conflict Style Works

Speaking of fights, how do y’all handle disagreements? If every argument ends with someone ghosting or slamming doors, it might not be the right time to sign a lease babe. You should feel warm and confident that you can communicate through the tough stuff without losing your mind and possibly your relationship.

5. It’s Not About Convenience

Moving in together because you want to save on rent or because your lease is up isn’t enough of a reason. Convenience fades, but compatibility lasts. Ask yourself: would you still want to do this if money weren’t an issue? If the answer is yes, you’re probably on the right track.

6. You See This as a Step Forward

Moving in is a big commitment friend it’s not just about sharing a Netflix account and getting home cooked meals. Do you both see this as a step toward a bigger goal, like marriage or long-term partnership? If one of you sees it as “just the next step” and the other is picking out wedding venues in their head, you need to get on the same page now.

7. You’ve Talked About Boundaries

I think we should normalize boundaries being sexy. How will you carve out personal time? What’s the plan for guests? Will their friends be dropping by unannounced? These are the little things that can add up to major frustrations, so discuss them early.

8. You’re Both Excited, Not Pressured

Here’s the tea: if you feel like you have to move in or like it’s the only way to “fix” something, pump the motherfucking brakes. You should both be genuinely excited about building a home together, not doing it out of obligation, guilt, or to save a rocky ass relationship.

Final Thoughts

Moving in together is a big thing, and it should feel like a decision you’re both fully ready to embrace. If the conversations are flowing, your boundaries are set, and you’re excited to make it happen, then go ahead and start picking out that Ikea furniture. LOL

Remember: the goal isn’t just to live together, it’s to thrive together and build a healthy, strong foundation. Go friend! 💕

Xoxo, Drea