Situationships vs. Sneaky Links: Are They Different or One in the Same?

Okay, let’s get into it because this topic has been the talk of the New Year: situationships and sneaky links. Are they just different shades of the same situationship drama, or do they each deserve their own category in how we talk about things in our culture? Most importantly, should they both have been left in 2024?

Let’s dissect.

Situationships: The In-Between Relationship

A situationship is that cloudy middle ground between a full-blown relationship and just “talking.” It’s giving all the emotional attachment without the official title. You’re doing all of the couple things, Netflix and chilling, long FaceTime convos, maybe even introducing them to a friend or two, but when the question “What are we?” comes up, they hit you with the classic, “I’m not ready for a relationship.” Whew.

The situationship can feel comfortable, especially when you’re not looking for something too serious, but it’s also a breeding ground for confusion, unmet expectations, and heartbreak. It’s like pouring into a cup with a hole in the bottom.

Sneaky Links: The Quiet Entanglement

Now, sneaky links are a different flavor of chaos. These are the “Can’t nobody know about us” situations where discretion is key. A sneaky link usually involves someone you’re linking up with but keeping on the low. Maybe it’s because y’all aren’t serious, or maybe it’s because you shouldn’t be doing it in the first place. No judgment, just saying.

The thrill of sneaky links often comes from the secrecy. You’re not worried about meeting their parents or merging Netflix accounts. It’s about convenience and vibes, not commitment. But let’s be real… sneaky links can turn messy quick when feelings get involved, or the “sneak” part goes wrong.

Are They the Same?

The overlap is undeniable. Both situationships and sneaky links lack defined boundaries, which means both can easily slip into hot mess territory. But the key difference? Intentions.

A situationship often has that GFE energy. You’re doing all the things couples do without the title or commitment. It’s emotionally blurry.
A sneaky link is usually more straightforward. It’s about the physical connection, often without the emotional investment. Think less date night and more late night.

That said, the lines blur when one party wants more, and the other doesn’t. A sneaky link can evolve into a situationship, and vice versa. And that’s when you have to ask yourself: Am I settling for less than I deserve? C’mon friend.

Should You Leave Them in 2024?

Honestly, I vote yes. Life is too short to be stuck in undefined, unfulfilling arrangements. Here’s why:

Clarity is Key: 2025 is the year of intentional living. If they’re not matching your energy or being clear about their intentions, why keep them around?
Time is Precious: The energy you spend on situationships and sneaky links could be redirected to things that actually bring you joy and fulfillment, whether it’s a healthy relationship, self-love, bonding with your kids or building your empire.
You Deserve More: Both situationships and sneaky links often thrive on one-sided benefits. You deserve someone who’s all in, not half-stepping.

The Bottom Line

If you’re happy and unbothered in your sneaky link or situationship, do you, babe. But if you’ve been second-guessing or feeling like you’re settling, let’s leave these complicated dynamics in 2024, its January but it’s not too late to cut it off. Because this year? It’s all about clarity, commitment, and vibes that match your worth. Period.

Xoxo, Drea