Scrolling through TikTok the other day, I rabbit holed down this couple’s channel. They’re doing it all friend, from cooking, vlogging their daily lives, laughing through challenges. But what caught my eye wasn’t their content, you KNOW it was the comments.

“They look so forced.”
“This seems fake.”
“Are they even happy?”

It got me thinking… Why are people so quick to question authenticity when a couple tries something new together? We literally don’t know their story. What if they’re just out here trying? Trying to reconnect, trying to ignite that spark, or maybe just trying to have fun and see where it takes them?

Honestly, life can get really boring if we let it. Routines dull our edges, and sometimes relationships need a little spice to stay vibrant. That’s why I’m all for couples diving into adventures, whether it’s starting a business, cooking together, traveling, or just stepping outside their comfort zone.

Here’s the lesson: Relationships thrive on intentional effort. And while effort can sometimes look a little awkward or “forced” from the outside, it’s a sign that two people care enough to show up and try. It’s easy to sit on the sidelines and critique. It’s harder to put yourself out there and risk vulnerability, especially in front of an audience.

So, the next time you catch yourself raising an eyebrow at someone else’s attempt to reconnect, pause and ask yourself: Am I cheering for their growth or projecting my own doubts?

Let’s give couples the grace to explore, experiment, and evolve because every great recipe, both in the kitchen and in love, starts with a little trial and error.

Xoxo, Drea