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It’s was at 11:11 PM on this past Saturday night. My baby was asleep, my house was quiet, and I’m deep into a binge session of Harlem on Amazon Prime. (BTW, if you haven’t watched it yet, here’s my Affiliate link—because we love a good show and a good coin.)

Without spoiling too much, let’s just say I sat there, wiping away tears, feeling everything. It’s wild how a show can mirror so much of real life, how it can hit those places in your heart that you thought had healed. Timing is everything to me and tonight, this show was right on time.

What gets me the most is how universal some of these experiences are. So many of us have lived through the same relationship cycles—miscommunications, heartbreaks, the “almost” that never quite make it, the lessons we didn’t ask for but needed anyway. And the sad part? A lot of permanent decisions get made off of temporary emotions. God, I hate that part.

Because I had to learn that the hard way.

I think back on moments where I reacted instead of reflected, where I spoke from a place of hurt instead of healing, where I let my feelings dictate the future without considering the long game. It’s the fiery impulsive Aries in me. But if I’m being honest? Some of those moments still haunt me. Some of them I wish I could take back. But growth is a funny thing—it doesn’t come without discomfort, without those hard lessons that leave a mark.

I guess the real question is: how do we stop repeating the cycle? How do we recognize the difference between a passing storm and a true red flag? How do we learn to sit with our emotions instead of letting them drive the car?

I damn sure don’t have all the answers. But what I do know is this: staying grounded, giving yourself time, and allowing clarity to come before making life-changing decisions? It makes all the difference. And maybe that’s the biggest lesson of all—timing isn’t just about fate; it’s about patience and I am truly in my season of patience.

Anyway, I don’t know who needed to hear this, but if it’s you, I see you. I feel you. I relate to you. And if you’re in the middle of a moment where emotions are high and decisions feel heavy, I hope you give yourself the grace of time.

Because sometimes, waiting is the most powerful thing you can do.💛

Xoxo, Drea