Dear Sandie,

Your vision is clear, you see it and you feel it. Balancing it all may be the most challenging part. Getting others to understand and see it will be the runner up. What I want you to know is you have the answer already. You do not need any validation from not a soul. And you damn sure don’t need traditional support like you were raised to believe. Your village will come and grow organically.

You are about to experience life the way some people can only dream of, you’re also about to experience some hurt that I wouldn’t wish on anybody. The 20 year old you today sees the beauty in all and that’s why you speak so freely, because you believe they get you. But they don’t. And when you realize this, you’ll adjust accordingly.

The knowledge that you’re about to gain from the rooms you’re about to walk into, the people you’re about to meet, the places you’ll visit, you don’t see it for yourself now, but whew, you’re going to enjoy every single moment. I think you’d be proud of where we are today. We’re on our third life now, and I’m so excited to ride this next wave because this time, we’ve got somebody who makes it all worth it.

Right now you want marriage and three kids. I know it feels like it but he’s not the one and he’ll show you that in many forms. It’ll take you a few knock downs before you see it. Fast-forward to today. We have one whole light in human form, and I’m working on another when the time is right. Perhaps they’ll be twins… you always did dream big.

And just so you know, the dream is still alive. It’s matured, it’s seasoned, and baby, it’s real.

You’ve become the woman you used to daydream about when you were riding the bus and train with your headphones in, looking out the window like you were in a music video. You’re softer now, that part would really trip you out lol. Stronger too. You know when to speak up and when to simply let God handle it.

So walk boldly. Love fully. Keep hustling. Keep creating. Keep loving hard. Keep choosing you over and over again. The best is not behind you. It’s not even right now. The best is still unfolding!

I’ll see you at 40, barefoot in the garden with a glass of wine in hand, giggling with your babies and making playlists that still slap.

Love you always,

Your Future Self

Xoxo, Drea